Tuesday, 26 July 2011

BFP!

Yes, that would be a Big Fat Positive.. No, not my bfp (hmmm.. I think you'd know if/when I'll be trying again :-) ), my sister's! Yes, my younger sister is now pregnant. And more than how (donor sperm, another SMC in the making..), do you want to know how many attempts it took her? One! How lucky is that!! To get knocked on your first time! Hell, she did not even know what a Beta is... And yes, let be go back to the SMC thing I just mentioned.. My sister, after seeing me and my daughter, has decided also to try and become a mother by herself. Unlike me she has very much dated guys, but well.. Anyway it's kind of weird.. [at some point I was asked if I wouldn't mind if she'd use the same donor I used. hmmm ignoring the fact that he doesn't donate anymore so it is a total hypothetical question, I think I'd rather not..]. And I am very happy for her. Very happy.

And now can I the rants? Little rant and big rant.. Little rant - She will go into motherhood younger than me! [I was almost three weeks over forty. She should deliver about two months before her 40th..]. In fact, out of all the sisters, I who always wanted to be a mother much more than any one of them, I turned out to be the oldest mother. And you know, her first attempt...
And oh big rant.. what she said. She says that succeeding on that first attempt might be little luck, but it's mainly her working on herself,"cleaning" herself up. May I say a big hmmmm?! Because while it is not what she is saying, it is very much implied that I and many of us who needed/s a bit more than one attempt, in fact take ten tries, over a year or two, IVF, etc.. are in the wrong set of mind. That we don't want it as badly as she and/or didn't do the work she did. Isn't that a just relax?? You were lucky sister, that's all, very very lucky. And yes, your state of mind might have helped somewhat, but to say that's why you got pregnant so easily?? And can I say that she was not determined like me to go this route, that she had many doubts and it took her some time to get going.. As I said, she didn't mean all this, but I most certainly understand it from between the lines and it very much pisses me of! And yet, I want to finish this post by saying again how happy I am for her!

5 comments:

Tiara said...

Sorry you sister was so insensitive. It sounds like you've been a good example for her that she's going down the SMC road after seeing you.

FruitFish said...

Ahhh. . .sisters ;) I understand the part where you are so happy for her, but then also need to rant too. I sometimes feel that's what I do at work, but will always make sure the person I'm talking to knows how close we are and how much I love them! (I know that wasn't the main point to your post.)
You paving the way and Butterfly setting the example probably helped her to cut her thinking phase down tremendously! Not fair for her to say that it was her mind set that got her preggers so quickly though. Especially to those who most likely went/go into their first time optimistically as well and get a bfn :(

bunintheovenplease! said...

I saw a study once that explained that people who are successful (in a pursuit) often like to attribute it to something they did them-self, this making them more confident and more likely to succeed again. It's just SO Annoying! - Sometime people just get lucky - or just have plain bad luck - and it says Nothing about what they deserve, or whether they are good or bad people!

DRMOMOFTWO said...

And maybe she did the magic baby dance a little better than most of us, said the magic words and stood on her head. I'm sure all that does the trick, too! But, you're right, the important thing is that she was successful and will have a very healthy little baby! Congrats to her and congrats to the new aunt to be!

Strgblkwmn said...

yup I concieved my son on the first time...lol